Recent ga arrange marriage lo naku oka abbayi profile vachindi. Warangal nunchi, currently Charlotte, North Carolina (NC) lo untunnadu. Few weeks nunchi maa intlo ee profile gurinchi chala force unde. Nenu mundhu interest pettaledu, kani last ki “Ok, okasari matladi chudham. Set ayithe munduku veldham” ani anukunna. Kani final ga abbayi side nunchi reject chesaru. Reason enti ante, athanu tana parents ki “US lo unna ammayilu chala different untaru, pogaru untundi, adjust avaru, kashtam” ani annadu anta.
Like ikkada unna girls ki enta kastam untadhi masters nunchi job life ki set chesukoniki memu entha trauma, health stress ala anni barinchi untamu. Sare koncham strict and ruled untamu but adhi US lo anni chusi nerchukuntam kada etla undali ani ah environment emo mari. Athani expectation enti ante, India lo unna ammayini pelli chesukovali. Aame India lo job vadilesi US ki ravali. Ikkadiki vachaka job chesukovachu, kani husband ni, family ni chusukovali ani athani opinion. Inko point enti ante, athaniki inka H-1B stamping kuda kaledu edho contract job.
Sare nenu judge chesthale feeling chepthuna. Naku anipinchindi enti ante, athanu India nunchi ammayini prefer cheyadaniki oka reason enti ante, US lo already settle ayina ammayiki tana rights, independence, system gurinchi ekkuva awareness untundi. India nunchi direct ga vachina ammayi ki US system gurinchi takkuva telusu ani, tana expectations ni easy ga accept chestundi ani anukuntunnada ane doubt vachindi. Leda ikkada em anna stories unnaya?
Aa post chusaka, naku oka doubt came. Naku recent ga vachina match kuda idhe person emo ani anipinchindi. Few months back kuda ee profile vachindi. Apudu memu reach out ayam, kani proper response raledu. lpudu matram last 3 weeks nunchi malli pressure start ayyindi. Mainly abbayi parents maa parents ki repeated ga calls chesi decision adugutunnaru. Nenu koni rojulu agandi ani chepina. Why ante profile gurinchi konchem verify chesi, ardham chesukovali anipinchindi. Edho starting nunchi konchem weird feeling unde.
Malli alochisthe, nannu accept cheyaniki main reason nenu US lo oka pedda MNC lo full-time job chesthuna kabati emo ani doubt vachindi. Na visa inka OPT ani cheppina, “ em kadu, pelli ayyaka H-4 ki move avvachu. Present job chesthe chalu” ani anaru. Abbayiki H-1B stamping tharuvatha easy ga settle avutharu. Inko vishayam enti ante, abbayi nanu nenu unna place lo meet avutha anni anadu, maa parents natho anaru. Previous post chusina taruvata, naku confusion ekuva ayindi. Nijanga ippudu chala mandi boys ilane think chestunara? Leda nene overthink chestunana?
Intlo vallaki US lo arrangements, dating, marriage process ela untayo pedda idea ledu. Vallaki “Manchi sambandham vachindi kada, okasari chudu” ane feeling matrame untadi. Anduke repeated ga pressure undi. Kani naku matram life ante oka visa process kadu kada. Naa career, naa future, compatibility, mutual respect anni important anipisthunnayi. Ee situation lo nenu em think cheyalo ardham kavatle. Similar experience unna vallunte, genuine suggestions please.
Mee life lo jarigina real confessions, feelings and fantasies ni natho share chesukovachu on my Gmail or Google Chat kadaveru87@gmail.com. Nenu USA lo untanu and looking for casual meets and relationships.