PLEASE KEEP THIS ANONYMOUS. Idhi especially United States lo family dwara arrange marriage choostunna vallaki. Nenu 29 years female. Last few years lo chala arrange marriage profiles kalisanu. Honest ga cheppali ante, ee journey nannu mentally chala exhaust chesindi. Naku arrange marriage meeda problem ledu. Kani konni experiences tharuvatha oka feeling vachindi… chala mandi partner ni vetukuntunnaru ani kadhu. Timeline, pressure, sex, kids, convenience kosam marriage chesukovali anukuntunnaru ani anipinchindi.
Marriage oka companionship kakunda oka contract laga feel ayyindi. Konni experiences:
- “Naaku marriage ante mainly sex kosame.” First one or two conversations lone repeated ga “Entha frequent ga sex untundi?” ani adagadam. Physical intimacy important, but adhe first priority ayyipovadam naku chala uncomfortable ga anipinchindi.
- “2 years lo pakka kids kavali.” Okka sari kuda “Nee opinion enti?” ani adagaledu. Aa conversation lo wife laga kakunda machine laga feel ayyanu.
- “Pelli chesukundam… kani long distance lone undham.” Marriage enduku, life kalisi build cheyyakapothe?
- “Na ex ni marchipolenu. Ninnu compare chestha.” Mari nenu partner aa? Leka replacement aa?
Oka match thane out of shape, almost hair ledu. Kani demand enti ante… “Kids ayyaka kuda nuvvu sexy ga undali.” Oka match tho one month matladaka… “Nee jatakam baledu” ani vellipoyadu. Horoscope first day nunchi exchange ayyindi and match ayake numbers exchange chesam. Real reason cheppi vellunte inka respect undedi.
Naku visa/career valla state leave chese option ledu. Kani expectation enti ante “Nuvve anni vadilesi maa state ki ravali.” Financial support chestava ani adigithe answer “No.” Choice unna vallaki compromise cheyyadam kastam… choice leni nenu matram anni vadileyala? Oka match ni cheating gurinchi adigithe… “Cheyochu emo. Nenu kuda future lo chestanemo.” Marriage perspective lo ilanti answer naku assalu ardham kaaledu. Oka person ni life partner perspective lo kalustunnappudu ila cheppadam enti?
Adi vintunte “Future lo jarigithe adjust avvu” ani cheppinattu anipinchindi. First or second day talking lone “Meeru ee color innerwear vesukuntaru?” ani adigadu. Nijanga shock ayya. Basic respect, compatibility gurinchi matladalsina stage lo ilanti personal questions enduku? Kani ivanni kanna painful enti ante… Nenu “No” cheppina tarvata…
- “Nelo edo lopam undi.”
- “Nuvvu sex ki panikiravu… anduke excuses chepthunnav.”
- “Neku marriage meeda interest ledu.”
- Mee parents ninnu ilane pencharu.”
Opinion cheppina, boundaries pettina, immediate ga character ni question cheyyadam enduku? Marriage ante naku. Companionship, Respect, Emotional connection, Trust,Communication,Compromise, Sex important, Kids important. Kani avvi maatrame marriage kaadhu. Please pelli chesukokandi only sex kosam, only kids kosam, timeline kosam, leda family pressure kosam. Pelli chesukondi because meeku oka life partner kavali ani.
This is just my personal experience. Andaru ilane untaru ani kadhu. Kani naku tagilina experiences matram nannu mentally chala exhaust chesayi. Please get married only when you are clear about what you want. Don’t waste another person’s time, emotions, career, or hopes just because you are confused about your priorities.
Mee life lo jarigina real confessions, feelings and fantasies ni natho share chesukovachu on my Gmail or Google Chat kadaveru87@gmail.com. Nenu USA lo untanu and looking for casual meets and relationships.